Not because you’re too much.
But because your self-abandonment made their life easier.
Your strength will always expose where they were weak.
Because when you hold a boundary, stay disciplined, or raise your standards, it forces others to face where they aren’t doing that work.
– You prioritize health, and it shows people who aren’t.
– You stop overgiving, and it shows who was benefiting from your overgiving.
– You demand respect, and it exposes who was disrespecting you (or themselves).
Your strength highlights their weakness — just by existing, not by attacking.
Your clarity will always expose where they were comfortable.
Because when you become clear about what you want, what you accept, and what you refuse — it unsettles people who were comfortable with you staying unclear, available, convenient.
– You saying no sharply forces others to face the fact they were counting on your yes.
– You moving faster forces others to face their own stalling or laziness.
– You taking decisive action shows them their passivity.
Your clarity removes their excuse to stay comfortable.
Keep your standards.
Keep your pace.
Let the fallout happen.
It’s not your job to carry what your clarity confronts.
When your leadership (your clear moves, your higher standards) unsettles people, it’s not your responsibility to fix their discomfort.
You’re not responsible for managing other people’s reactions to your growth.
