For some reason, our culture tells us that there’s something wrong with taking care of ourselves. That we must always be “generous” and give everything to family, work, friends and others before we think of ourselves. Otherwise, you’re being selfish or inconsiderate, right?
Well, I say: No. That’s asking for trouble.
Why? Well, it’s simple, as the adage tells us: You can’t pour from an empty cup.
For example, one study found that student nurses often neglect their wellbeing while looking after others – and this lowered their effectiveness.
In other words, you can’t help others if you’re run down, sick, distressed, or otherwise suffering the consequences of not making yourself a priority.
To put it another way: What do flight attendants tell you to do if the oxygen mask ever comes down during an emergency? Yep: Put on your own mask before helping someone else.
That’s not because you don’t want to help the person next to you. It’s because you won’t be able to if you’re in trouble yourself.
Those who feel bad about practicing self-care have a range of reasons.
- Some don’t think they’re worth it.
Others are compelled to please everyone else in their lives, hoping to gain approval and enrichment that way. - Life can feel overwhelming sometimes, and it’s hard to know where to draw boundaries or ask for help.
- Do any of those sound like you?
I want you to turn off that negative approach and replace it with a mindset that says you’re worth it, you’re important, and you deserve to be treated as kindly as you treat anyone else.
Think about all of this when you’re feeling like a bad parent, partner, colleague or neighbor just because you need time alone, time to recharge, or time to enjoy something just for yourself.
- Think about it when you’re starting each day with a meditation and journaling.
- And when you take the time to prepare healthy lunches for the entire week.
- And when you go to the gym and keep the sacred commitment to honor, cherish, and support yourself with healthy habits.
- If you find you’re having trouble getting over the mental blocks to prioritizing yourself, then talk to a counselor or trusted adviser for help.
You can find your way to the light of wellbeing for yourself. I want you to bask in it.