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Fantasy Keeps You Safe—But It Also Keeps You Stuck

April 4, 2025
Active Living, Mindset

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Archive – From My Personal Training Days

You don’t have a motivation problem
You have a fantasy loop problem.

That future version of you?

She works out five days a week.

Drinks the green juice.

Never forgets to stretch.

Wakes up early for sunrise journaling.

She feels inspiring…

Until she becomes the reason you keep disconnecting from where you are right now.

If you’re working toward her, step by step?

That’s visualization. It sets direction—and anchors your actions.

But if she only exists in your mind, without action behind her?

That’s fantasy. And she might be keeping you stuck.

Fantasy feels safe.

It gives you something to hope for.

But it can also keep you avoiding what’s actually doable today.

Let’s Talk Movement.

Fantasy says:

“I’m going to start that full-body strength plan on Monday.”

“I’ll sign up for a gym membership next month.”

“I just need to get through this week first.”

But your real life is saying:

“You’re tired right now.”

“You have 10 minutes, not an hour.”

“You need something that meets you where you are—not where you wish you were.”

Movement isn’t about perfection or big plans.

It’s about patterning. Showing up in small, doable ways.

It’s about training your nervous system to feel safe in movement again.

What Fantasy Gives You (and Why It’s So Seductive)

Your brain is an energy-conservation machine.

It prioritizes what feels safe and predictable.

Fantasizing requires less risk, less uncertainty, and less real-time feedback.

That’s what makes it feel “easier” and often more rewarding in the moment—especially if your nervous system is already overwhelmed.

But here’s the kicker:

Your body benefits from action, not idealized plans.

So when the fantasy version of you is the only one with permission to move,

The real you gets benched—again.

The Reframe

Don’t ask, “What should I be doing?”

Ask, “What can I do today that future me will thank me for?”

Is it a 10-minute walk after lunch?
A few squats while your coffee brews?
A stretch between Zoom calls?

Let go of the pressure to match a fantasy plan.

Anchor into one small movement that supports you now.

That’s the move that breaks the loop.

The Movement Prompt

Do 5 squats. Right now. Seriously.

(If you’ve got the mobility, try ATG or prying goblet squats.)

Then say out loud:

“This counts.”

Because your nervous system learns through experience—not expectations.

Sustainable movement doesn’t come from fantasy.

It comes from rhythm.

And rhythm is built in real time.

In health and your friend, Sharon

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